The QUESTIONNAIRE

QUESTIONNAIRE
How well did you know this man before you began a serious relationship with him? Did you check him out enough?

What was the length of time before you acknowledged you were in a relationship with him? How long did the relationship last? (Or is the relationship still going on?)

What lessons have you learned from your experience?

Do you feel you knew this man well enough to make a good judgment about whether or not he was a good fit (concerning you standards, values and needs) for you?

At what point did you realize he had traits that were unacceptable or disagreeable to you?

What traits or qualities are those he has that you consider beneath you (as regards your standards, values and needs)?

How far into the relationship were you when you felt you had a clear picture of him?

How did his negative qualities become apparent to you?

What did you tell yourself about his negative traits?

Did some of his negative qualities come out later, or did you only begin to notice them later?

What do you wish you had done differently?

Why did you settle for someone who was beneath you?

What do you plan to do about the relationship? (Or what was it you did do about the relationship in the past?)

Do you feel you deserve better?

What are you afraid of about this situation?

Do you trust the feelings you have about this relationship?

What advice would you give to other women who find themselves with a man who is beneath them or who is considering such a man?

What else would you like to say or share about your personal story?

[[POST NOTE:  This has been addressed to women for  a book about Women Choosing Men Who Are Beneath Them.  If, however,  you choose to address this from wearing another shoe on another foot -- perhaps you are a man who married a woman beneath you, for example, feel free to answer from your perspective.]]  Thank you again, in advance.